I believe our lives are subject to God’s will which essentially becomes our true “destiny”, defining who we are [but only] in accordance with fulfilling his divine plan. Therefore, it’s our “perceived” wants and needs which can differ from his divine plan for each of us. That’s sometimes a difficult thing to imagine, and even more difficult for us mere mortals to follow. So here’s one passage I found that addresses this biblical concept –

John 11:1-6
“When Mary and Martha sent word for Jesus to come heal their dying brother, Lazarus, Jesus delayed, instead of acting on their urgency right away.”

“It was because he loved them that he delayed his arrival… This passage demonstrates an important theological truth regarding prayer. In our times of struggle, we want God to respond immediately. When he doesn’t, we’re tempted to assume he doesn’t care. But the reality is that we don’t understand his timing or his purposes because his ways are not our ways. There’s a method to his (apparent) contradictions. He responds as he does because he loves us and because he’s seeking his glory. Trust him in his delays.”

[More: There’s a concept here that I find repeating itself in the New Testament, in regards to the seemingly unpredictable reactions of Jesus Christ to different events. His lack of urgency must stem from the fact that his whole perspective on life here is nothing but “temporary”, and his focus is really on the eternal [life]? That’s how I would interpret his attitude and overall calm in situations described like the one above.]